Annual Meeting January 19th
Dear Church Community,
The Annual Meeting the Unitarian Universalist Church of Marblehead will take place on June 19, 2022 following the service in the Sanctuary of the church for the purposes of the election of officers, review of the annual budget, and voting on any other matters that may be properly brought before the congregation. A quorum is required.
By the Board of Trustees
CLICK HERE TO OPEN THE PROXY VOTE FORM.
You will need to print it, bring it to the office or scan it and send it by email by, Friday 06/17 (between 11am & 2pm)
The Annual Report is available in the Members section of the website
Nominating Committee Report
Marlaine Mahady-Potter, Jay Morrison, Susie LaBrie
Building Usage Policy update
Dear Church Community,
Please find below the most recent version of the UUCM Building & Grounds Usage Policy, with updates from the May Board of Trustees Meeting.
Please note that
while there are still capacity restrictions on some spaces, for most events, these should not prevent them from occurring as they normally would
masks are still required to be worn indoors at all times
the Board of Trustees reinstated the "no eating and drinking" inside rule at its May meeting, in response to the rising number of Covid cases locally and in Massachusetts more broadly
The Reopening Task Force (which makes recommendations) and the Board of Trustees (which sets church policy) will continue to monitor current circumstances. We will continue to make recommendations and adapt our policies to find the best balance we can between keeping us safe and minimizing restrictions, knowing that what that looks like will almost certainly change in varying degrees and directions, depending on what is happening with the pandemic.
UUCM Building & Grounds Usage Policy
Effective May 19th, 2022
The following spaces are open and available for general use:
a. Holyoke – 25 max capacity
b. Stetson – 25 max capacity
c. the Sanctuary – no limit up to city occupancy permit
d. the patio/outside – no limit
e. Nichols – 10 max capacity
f. the kitchen – 5 max capacity
All other indoor spaces remain closed. Weather permitting, we encourage you to open windows and doors to improve air quality and safety when gathering indoors. Please contact our Office Administrator, Teresa (email@example.com), if you wish to use or hold a gathering in one of available spaces, so that she can reserve the space for you.
Proper social distancing, a minimum of three feet, must be maintained in all indoor spaces.
Masks must be worn at all times in the building. Outside, masks are optional. The indoor mask requirement includes if you arrive early for a meeting and are the only one in the building. The only exceptions are 1) for staff members working alone in their respective offices, and 2) for worship leaders actively speaking (singing not included) while leading part of a worship service or ritual.
Food & Beverage Consumption
No food or beverages are to be consumed in the building. Eating and drinking are allowed outside.
A Joyful celebration following The Vote!
After two sermons and a week of meetings with interest groups, on Sunday May 1st, the members of UUCM voted unanimously to call Jenna Crawford as our next settled minister.
We were delighted with her ability to organize a very meaningful Sunday service, her warmth in our individual contacts with her, and her appreciation and support of our committee’s concerns. It was exciting to learn of her leadership of youth hiking trips in the Southwest and that her college major in biochemistry prepared her for multi-disciplinary thinking. Her study at BU School of Theology prepared her for her chosen vocation in Ministry.
We look forward with anticipation to welcoming her to UUCM in August when she arrives to take up her ministerial role here at UUCM. In the meantime she will be completing her journey to becoming the Reverend Jenna Crawford by being ordained in June at the Needham UU Church where she has served as an intern this past year.
New UUCM CommitteeChair Needed
We also need a new chair for the Memorial Garden. This person is responsible for coordinating the requests for the Memorial Garden, ordering plaques to go on the memorial stone, if requested, and digging a hole for the ashes. There is more information in Teresa’s office that can be available to interested person(s).
Please contact Holly Jaynes at firstname.lastname@example.org
GIVE THE GIFT OF SPONSORSHIP
As the holiday season is upon us, partnering with our Immigrant neighbors is an especially important time. At this time of year, our families are even more aware of the time and space that separates them from their loved ones in their home countries.
Often when we donate in various charitable directions we have an idea where that support is going, but in Casa Mariposa land we know exactly where it goes, and who it benefits.
So please consider the Gift of Sponsorship on a one-time basis (to our General Sponsorship fund) or on a monthly basis via: Venmo: @jean-hamburg, bank check or personal check.
There is also an option to help our capital campaign via Pay Pal through the website: www.casamariposa.org ensuring that our 1839 Casa can have ongoing needed repairs!
Please feel to reach out with questions, thoughts, or even creative ideas about how to get to know more about our Very Special Casa Community.
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End of Life: Expect the Unexpected
an offering from your
Unitarian Universalist Church of Marblehead Pastoral Associates
Dear Church Community,
We are pleased to share with you a form developed by Sue Haas and the Pastoral Care Associates to help us prepare for the end of life, expect the unexpected, and assist those left behind after we have died (click button below to download). It suggests what might be important or relevant information for our survivors to have on hand at the time of our deaths, and offers a place to gather and store that information in advance. You can fill this out electronically or print it out and give copies to any of your loved ones. The church would like to have copies of any wishes for your memorial service - please send copies of these pages to Teresa to store for the minister.
Please contact Teresa or Seth, or Trish Sullivan or Jack Weltner.
Your UUCM Pastoral Associates
Roxanne C, Jay M, Trish S, Nancy D, Holly J, Sally S, Sheila D., Judy D, Sheila C-B, Jack W, Rev. Seth Carrier-Ladd
As most of you know, last year our Black Lives Matter was vandalized two times by the same person. After being captured on our security cameras, the person who did the defacing, Tom Neily, came forward and confessed to the police. UUCM was invited to submit a letter to the magistrate as part of Mr. Neily’s criminal hearing, and we did so. The Board of Trustees discussed what we felt was important to include, and decided to request that instead of a punitive approach to addressing Mr. Neily’s actions, that we be allowed to use a restorative justice process with him instead. For those unfamiliar, restorative justice processes typically involve face-to-face meeting(s) between those connected and impacted by a crime, during which all parties share their experience of what happened, and agree on appropriate remedies. The court granted this request, and so it was that five members of our community – Holly Aloha Jaynes, Roxanne Campbell, Andre Womble, Bill Smalley, and Rev. Seth Carrier-Ladd – met with Mr. Neily in the Holyoke Room for two hours on January 27, 2022.
Led by Rev. Seth and informed by Roxanne’s recent restorative justice trainings, we created a process whereby the six of us, the five representatives from UUCM plus Mr. Neily, sat in a socially distanced circle, and each took turns answering a series of questions. We agreed at the beginning of our process to listen without interrupting, so that each person present could fully share the experience, and so that each of us could really take in the sharings. The six of us answered the following questions:
1. What are the facts of what happened?
2. How did this event make you feel?
3. What do you think the impact was on the members of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Marblehead community?
4. What do you think the impact was on the greater Marblehead community?
5. What is your experience of racism/anti-racism work in your life?
6. What does the Black Lives Matter movement mean to you?
7. Moving forward, what does healing look like for everyone involved in these incidents?
We answered one question at a time, moving around the circle, before moving on to the next question. This sharing took the majority of our time to complete, and it was powerful and moving to all present. We each shared the impact of Mr. Neily’s actions on us and members and friends of UUCM, and the broader community. He expressed his sincere regrets to us about what he had done, explaining that he was in “a bad place” during the times he had vandalized our banner, that he felt really badly about what he had done, and that he heard and understood the deeply negative impact his actions had had on both UUCM and the broader Marblehead community.
Once the sharing portion was complete, we discussed next steps with Mr. Neily. The court had already mandated Mr. Neily writing a letter of apology to the congregation, and we affirmed that decision. We also encouraged Mr. Neily to consider attending meetings of the Marblehead Racial Justice Team’s Conversations on Race, volunteering with our community in other settings, and reading more anti-racism books or literature. Roxanne, in fact, had brought a copy of So You Want To Talk About Race that she gave to Mr. Neily, and he promised to read it. We discussed the possibility of meeting a second time with Mr. Neily if we felt it was necessary, and agreed we would decide on that and let him know once we had received his letter of apology.
We received that letter in mid-March, which reads as follows:
Dear Rev. Seth Carrier-Ladd, Holly Aloha Jaynes, Roxanne Campbell, Andre Womble, and Bill Smalley,
I thank you for providing me the opportunity to apologize in this way. The kindness you are showing me in the face of what I did to you is astounding. I have learned much and thank you very much for that. I do not ever want to be a cause of pain to anyone.
After reading So You Want To Talk About Race I saw how I was like another one of the problems in the world that so many have struggled with throughout history and that people still face these problems today.
My meeting with the five person panel at the church was very informing for me. I learned how my actions have impacted my community. I learned that there had recently been a parade that brought the community together during a time when it was important to come together and that by defacing the sign I shattered that newly reinvigorated sense of community. I caused you to experience fear and anger and for that I cannot fully express my own regret.
I know I can’t take it back but I would if I could. I saw up close that I caused members to experience real fear about who else was in their community and about whether they could feel safe anymore. I saw myself in hindsight as that person who was feared. I shattered their sense of safety. My actions clearly did damage to the community. And I am responsible for that.
I take responsibility for my mistakes I have made and pray for forgiveness from the people I hurt. I am sorry for what I did and hope after our discussions that all will be able to start the healing process.
God bless you all.
The sentiments Mr. Neily expressed in his letter matched our experience of him at the restorative justice meeting we had in the Holyoke Room. We experienced him offering multiple genuine apologies and expressing what came across to us as authentic regret. After receiving this letter of apology, we felt the restorative justice process was complete, and let Mr. Neily know that we did not feel a second meeting was necessary.
We are now sharing Mr. Neily’s letter along with our reflections on the process with you, the congregation, to complete the loop. We feel like this experience could not have gone better both in terms of the process itself and in terms of the hoped for outcomes. Our experience of Mr. Neily was not that he was showing up and doing what he had to do to get through the meeting – we experienced him as present, remorseful, apologetic, and contrite. We experienced him attentively listening to us, and seeming to clearly hear what we shared based on his responses. His repeated apologies in person came across as authentic and caring. Mr. Neily showed up for the restorative justice process in all the ways we had hoped would happen.
For those of us who were participated in the process on behalf of the UUCM community, we feel complete, and that the process was a success. As one of us wrote in our email correspondence after receiving Mr. Neily’s letter:
"It does feel like he has changed, that he is not “getting away with it” as the voice in the back of my head whispers. I remind myself that we would not be made more whole by punishing him more. In this case, we all might be worse off. The experience has left me with the hope that Restorative Justice will be used as an alternative more broadly, more often."
The rest of us agreed with and appreciated these sentiments.
We also realize that while the five of us represented the UUCM community in this process, the majority of the congregation did not get to participate directly, and that reading Mr. Neily’s letter and hearing our experience of the process may not be enough to help all of you find resolution. If anyone would like to discuss the experience we had with Mr. Neily in greater depth with any of the five of us, please do not hesitate to reach out to one of us. If it would be helpful to have a final congregational conversation about what happened to address any unresolved feelings, please let us know, and we will organize a congregational conversation.
While we hope that our community will not need to engage in another process like this anytime soon, we are grateful that our beliefs and our values led us in this case down the path of healing and restoration.
Holly Aloha Jaynes
Rev. Seth Carrier-Ladd
Dear UUCM Church Family